Guided, a widening circle, loving kindness. Music underneath
I use this one when I feel myself contracting, usually because of other people. A circle that keeps getting wider.
About 12 minutes with Steven Webb's calm voice.
Your closest people first, in a circle around you on a meadow. Then it widens to the ones you half know, then to strangers, then to the ones you find difficult. If you meet resistance you soften round the edges rather than force it. Then the edge dissolves altogether and it is just love in, love out.
Treat me to a coffee, keep the podcast free, and get my Weekly Calm every Sunday. It is all on stevenwebb.uk
Thank you for sitting with me.
Steven
Who this is for
The days when your world has got small. Usually because of other people.
I use this one myself when I notice that happening. It is a take on the traditional loving kindness practice, built as a circle that keeps getting wider.
What happens in this meditation
You are sat in the middle of a green meadow with a circle round you.
First the people you love. Family, close friends, anybody from your past who belongs there, animals included. You notice the affection that arrives on its own, and send it out on the out breath. May you be safe. May you be joyful. May you live with ease.
Then the circle widens to the people you half know. Neighbours, colleagues, the ones you see but do not really know. Some feel pleasant, some feel neutral, and that is fine.
Then wider again, to strangers and to the people you find difficult. If resistance comes, you soften round the edges rather than forcing anything.
Then the edge dissolves entirely and it is people, animals and the earth. And the words get simpler. Love in, love out.
How to get the most from it
Twelve minutes, and the widening only works if you do not rush it. Stay at each ring until it actually feels like something.
Your closest people stay in the circle the whole time. You are not swapping them out for strangers, you are making room.
Expect the difficult ring to be hard. Softening round the edges is a real instruction, not a polite one. Forcing it does not work.
Questions people ask
What if I cannot include somebody?
Then do not force it. Soften at the edge and leave them at the boundary for now. Wishing somebody safe is not the same as saying what they did was fine.
Does this go with an episode?
Yes, it came out alongside the Stillness in the Storms episode about how big your circle is. You do not need to hear that one first.
Why does my circle keep shrinking?
Mine does too, usually when I am tired, unwell or busy. It is not a moral failure, it is a state, and this is one way of widening it back out.
Listen together
The companion talk
The Stillness in the Storms episode that goes with this meditation.