# A New Year’s Message of Love and Vulnerability (not a meditation)

- Show: [Inner Peace Meditations](https://innerpeacemeditations.com/), guided meditations with Steven Webb
- Meditation: 69
- Published: 31 December 2024
- Length: 9:13 (about 9 minutes)
- Subject: Specials
- Best time: Whenever you have nine minutes
- Position: However you like, this one is for listening
- Style: Not a meditation. A New Year message. Music underneath
- Web page: https://innerpeacemeditations.com/episode/a-new-years-message-of-love-and-vulnerability-not-a-meditation
- Listen: [Apple Podcasts](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-new-years-message-of-love-and/id1559888338?i=1000682255204), [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/show/5n31KPEaotQspMPzDkI1Li), [MP3](https://podcasts.captivate.fm/media/e434e643-35e4-4abf-b5fa-8223119311aa/A-New-Year-s-Message.mp3)

A New Year message about needing people. I cannot put a jumper on without help, and it took me most of my life to stop saying no thanks.

About 9 minutes. Not a meditation, just me talking.

Looking back at a year, you do not see a line. You see moments. The lad who chased me down the street with a pound for the bucket. The Canadian couple who were not offended when I called them American. You rely on people too. Everyone is climbing the same mountain from a different side, seeing something true and calling everyone else wrong. I end on I love you, and I mean it as acceptance.

Treat me to a coffee, keep the podcast free, and get my Weekly Calm every Sunday. It is all on [stevenwebb.uk](https://stevenwebb.uk)

Thank you for sitting with me.

Steven

## Who this is for

This is not a meditation and there is nothing to do in it.

It is a New Year message about needing people, and it went out on both podcasts because it did not feel like it belonged only on one.

## What happens in this episode

I cannot put a jumper on without help. I need people to get me out of bed and to do the most private things there are. And it took me most of my life to stop answering an offer of help with, no, I'm okay.

You rely on people too. You just get to pretend otherwise for longer.

Looking back at a year, you do not see a line. You see moments. The lad who chased me down the street with a pound for the bucket during the five hundred miles. The Canadian couple who were kind enough not to be offended when I called them American.

And this, which I keep coming back to. Everybody is climbing the same mountain from a different side, seeing something genuinely true, and calling everybody else wrong. Nobody is a hundred percent wrong, and very rarely is anybody a hundred percent right.

It ends with why I say I love you at the end of these, which is that I accept you entirely as you are and would not change a thing.

## How to get the most from it

Nine minutes, nothing to sit for, and it works while you are doing something else.

The same recording went out on Stillness in the Storms, so if you follow both you will have heard it.

If there is one thing to take from it, take the accepting help. That is the whole message with the tinsel off.

## Questions people ask

### Why is a talk on the meditation feed?

Because a lot of people only listen here, and this one seemed worth crossing over. It does not happen often.

### Why is accepting help so hard?

Because it feels like admitting something, and because we have all decided independence is a virtue rather than a temporary arrangement. It is temporary for everybody.

### Do I need to celebrate New Year to get anything from it?

No. I am not especially attached to the concept myself. It just happened to be the point in the year when I wanted to say it.

## Transcript

[0:06] I just wanted to do a quick podcast to say thank you for the last 12 months and happy New Year. Although I don't overly subscribe to Concepts, I do think it's incredible that us humans celebrate spinning around a giant hotel gas ball on a rock, traveling I don't know how fast. I just think it's awesome. It's just. It's so much more mysterious and magic than the actual new year has as we see it. But my last year has been incredible. I've done some incredible things. I did the 500 miles in my electric wheelchair for charity. I learned so many things. I learned that life is simply about moments. Nothing more, nothing less.

[0:55] You don't look back in a linear way. You look back at moments. When you look forward, you look at moments that are coming up. And the only way to really solidify the moments is to be in the moment. And I realized when I look back at my 28 days going around Cornwall, I don't see it as a journey all around. I see it as meeting someone on that day or someone saying a lovely, kind word, or that little lad that put one pound in the bucket after chasing me down the street. The lovely Canadian couple that were not offended when I called them American. And I seen them every day for the next week. And just all these beautiful people being kind, whether local or whether from all over the world. And I think one thing I've realized and I've struggled with all my life is the fact that I'm so reliant on other people.

[1:52] I need people to get me out of bed in the morning. I need people to shower me. I need people to do the most intimate things and everything. I literally cannot put on a jumper without someone helping me. And for many years, when people offered to help, and I still do it now, I say, no, I'm okay. When really I want to go, oh, my God, yeah, thank you. That'd be so nice. It's just one of those things that we don't like to be interdependent on other people. We don't like to have to rely on people. And it's possibly the worst case scenario when you're a teenager and you end up breaking your neck and you end up relying on people all your life. But the reality is you're no different than me. You rely on people.

[2:40] If something goes wrong, you need the medical services, something goes wrong legally, you need the lawyers, something else goes wrong and you need a plumber. We need friends for connections. We need people to talk to. We need people at the end of the podcast to do podcasts, the list can go on from the day you're born. You need people to nourish and care for you, and you need people there when it goes wrong, and you need people there to share when it goes right. And I equally need people to share in my wonderful experiences. That's why I share what I do on here, because I think you guys are awesome. And all the messages I get, it brings me to tears. And sometimes I don't reply for several days because I don't know what to say to you.

[3:27] So if you're one of those ones that donate three or four coffees and I don't reply for three or four days, it's because I don't know how to thank you. I don't know sometimes what to say. It's quite overwhelming. I do what I do because I love what I do. I love helping people. And for me, that's enough. Unfortunately, it does cost money to do it, and luckily we've got wonderful relationship that we don't have to do any adverts and, you know, the coffees are enough to pay for it. But that's why sometimes it takes me a little while to thank you, and then sometimes some months, the donations are really brilliant. And I feel like phoning up and giving it all back and saying, you've given me too much money.

[4:15] I don't need it. But it's just. It gives me a new mic or it gives me a new bit of equipment to make my life a little bit easier. So I think if I had a New Year's message, it would be, we're all interdependent. We all need each other. And if we can only learn to realize that everybody else is where they are, and you can. You cannot do anything about that. You know, the level they are, the thoughts they are, the conscious level they are, the they are if you. If you take it. Everybody's climbing up the same mountain, but from different points on that mountain, different elevations. They can all see different things. Unfortunately, we're all yelling at each other, saying, this is what I can see, and you're wrong.

[5:06] And someone else is saying, this is what I can see and you're wrong. And clearly it's wrong people, and clearly it's right people. But nobody's 100% wrong, and nobody's very rarely 100% right. And I think when we become a little softer and a little more vulnerable and leaning into our ability to be wrong, then we can listen to others. The more we open up, the more they open up, the more we go at it overstanding, the more they will lock up and move away. So I'm learning to say, yes, I'll take that help. I'm learning to lean in. And, you know, like, you'll notice my later podcast, I go, hey, if you can get a coffee, it'll help with the podcast.

[5:58] And it's really difficult to do those kind of things. And if you don't, you don't. And I've mentioned it twice on this podcast. Don't donate on this podcast, because it's not about that. I just want to wish you a happy new Year. And I wanted to share that we're all interdependent, and once we embrace that and once we realize that my granddaughter's now one, and I look at her and she smiles, and I just want to cry. I went to see Lion King this morning, the new movie, and I cried in that. I reckon Zen masters have wrote some of that. You know, if all kids would learn to listen to Lion King as the most wise wisdom book film of all time, we would all be a little kinder.

[6:47] There's real life lessons in that. There's forgiveness, there's betrayal, and then forgiveness. There's working together, working with different people. There's the interdependency. They cannot do it alone. There's so many lessons and teachers in that. And I went there to do with my daughter, 28, on the way in. She wasn't there at that point. So I looked up to the guy at the plaza, and I looked up and goes, yeah, can I book two tickets for this afternoon? It's me and my daughter. And then she walked up, and I'm sure he was like, oh, yeah, my daughter's 28, but, you know, she loved Lion King when she was a kid. We love Lion King now, and she liked this movie even more. So I'm just rabbiting, rambling, rabbiting on now.

[7:39] I just wanted to take a deep breath, and I've got a wonderful podcast coming out in the next couple of days about who really has our backs and it's not who we think. And in all uncertain times, how do we lean in and be truly vulnerable? I tell you how we do it. We do it by recognizing our interdependency on everybody else. There's very little we can do alone, but there's very little we cannot do with the help of everybody else, the community. I'm sure someone famous said that once. That's certainly not my words. I'm not that wise, but it's certainly true. So I know I'm sharing this on my inner peace meditations as well as the stillness in the storms.

[8:30] I just want to say thank you to all of you and I want to say something really important and I want to explain. I end my podcast very often with I love you. And the reason why I can say that is because I accept you fully who you are. I don't want to change a damn thing about you. You are where you are and I love you. Sa.

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